It’s natural to be worried that your spouse might not be truthful in mediation.
This is another issue which mediators are trained to deal with. They’re trained to see if claims pass the smell test.
And if the mediator isn’t catching on, say something! Either say it in joint session or ask to speak to the mediator privately. Don’t be afraid to bring it up! Seriously!
And if you don’t trust the mediator with this information or you don’t think he or she can handle it, maybe it’s time to shop around for a new mediator……..
Not everyone is familiar with the mediation process. And after a stressful period of time as your marriage falls apart, and trust is probably as low as it ever has been or will be, some callers are concerned that their rights won’t be protected in mediation and that the mediators will let their spouse bulldoze or bamboozle them.
It’s the mediator’s job to make sure that doesn’t happen. Mediator training specifically addresses how to deal with this sort of situation. So try not to worry!
Guest blogger Linda Duarte explains…….
Your car GPS takes you to the address you set it to. The same thing is true about your attitude and intentions.
Don’t believe me? It’s easier than you think!
And it’s not about being perfect. It’s about getting started, trying it out, and doing it better and better every day.
This simple gratitude exercise, practiced as often as you remember to do it, will make your outlook brighter and more optimistic.
Okay, I know it’s not easy to be grateful for much of anything when you’re getting divorce, especially when things aren’t going well.
But this simple exercise will make you feel better. Right away, believe it or not. I promise!
Plus it’s based on really interesting research from Stanford University, conducted by Dr. Fred Luskin. So this is not airy fairy BS. It really works.
Guest blogger Linda Duarte talks about how she stumbled into a career in mediation and why she’s hooked.